Love, if it exists, is a kind of thing. Seduction, and this certainly exists, is a completely different thing. In particular, it’s a game. Recently I have discovered that, if you walk around in clubs/discos/pubs/others you can be labeled by guys nearby with acronyms like HB (that is, hot babe) and with a vote too, which goes from 6 to the unreacheable 10 (10 is the SuperHB, the model’s perfection, unattainable in reality, in fact they have not yet invented the 3D photoshop). These “a priori” judgements are obviously founded on physical aspect, on the care which you employed in making you beautiful, on the charm you emanate at first glance. But, if for the subject who is observing you you are not presentable, you will be labeled as UG, that is ugly girl, or even as warpig, literally (hands up for the gallantry!). The girl becomes irretrievably an “object”, whereas the man who walks around in the club, who observes, who monitors the situation, possibly with the unfailing drink in his hands in order to put on airs (or, if we are outdoors, with the cigarette which makes you always a little more catchy), is the unquestioned subject of every action. If you are in a group of female friends, for him you are part of a set (yes, just like a set of forks). I read terrible descriptions of sets like: “the other night I put my eyes on a set of 3 (or, to be faster, you can write 3set), made up of a UG, a HB6 and a HB8”: girls lose their names in the game, they have only the label that defines their attractiveness. A set can also be mixed, that means that girls are already with other guys.
The subject who carries on these analysis and these games is called PUA, that means Pick Up Artist. The expert PUA calibrates his times in a perfect way; if he can, he takes his time, he remains at first aloof, beacuse he has yet to choose his target, and, if he finds himself in a new club, first of all he studies it, in order to have a mental map of it, and he also studies the placements of the differents “openable” sets. Yeah, because when a PUA has chosen a set, at some point he must open it, that means approach one or more girls of the set. In order to have more probabilities of success, he should have from the beginning a single target, one girl on which he focuses his attention. A PUA can have a wing (male or female), a friend that can help him to achieve the goal (and I think that, when they “win the game”, a written LED light appears in their head saying “MISSION ACCOMPLISHED!”).
Well. There are dudes that can make these things naturally, and they are called natural, and their talent is innate; the others, simply, study The Game. If you are not a PUA, you can become it. Otherwise, you will remain an AFC, an Average Frustrated Chump, that can’t do anything with women. This is the new frontier of libertinage: because, certainly, more or less expert PUAs don’t go out in the night to meet the love of their life. They go to clubs in order to play, to do a certain game with a certain babe. And, just like in a videogame, there are different levels that we can reach: the lower level is @close, when you obtain an e-mail adress or another internet contact, but this is not considered very useful; the next level, *close or k-close, which is the kiss, or some people say “to obtain the tongue” (just like they are making a collection of girls’ tongues!); the higher, and inevitably last, level is the famous f-close, the happy ending with a sexual intercourse. Bridge-close also exists, when you obtain a date, called day2 (you should notice that day3, day4, day5 simply don’t exist: the thing that is meant to happen should happen at the first encounter or must happen during the first date, further options are not given).
The secret of this game? Patience. There is no way out: you reach the end immediately (ONS, One Night Stand, an immediate affair of a single night after the first encounter), or weeks and months can pass. Yeah: it’s completely a game of techniques and strategies, very mental and not only physical. Especially when it lasts for months, it becomes sooo cerebral, and, if you can’t stand the challenge or you don’t know the rules, it becomes nearly exhausting. It’s a resistance game too, like a real videogame: you should never reduce your attention, or you lose points, the game risks to be over.
What is the risk? The PUA men (sometimes, you want to call them PUAH men, you know, only for assonance…) don’t have a lot to lose in a “game over” (a refusal), but only in reputational terms (that’s why they usually change locations for their games, so they have less witnesses as possible), but they have their tricks. And women? Stop with the illusions: you discover, in the conversational game with a similar guy, that everything remain on the surface, your arguments don’t interest him really, he is only interested in THE GAME, in managing it, and, above all, in remaining COHERENT (not a lot of guys can do it properly, many of them “crash”, but it’s the girl that should understand what is happening in order to “hit and sink” them or, otherwise, continue to stay in the game without the awareness to be in it). On different nights, in different clubs, you can choose a game more or less difficult, depending on opportunities but also on on the mood; the mood is called “frame“, the predisposition of the man at that time.
At this point, you can evaluate the high level of sliminess of PUA, because they are good at opening and managing different games contemporarily. But I’d like to say also something positive about PUAs, because in the end we are all on this stage of life to play the role of the man or of the woman: a PUA is always gentle, elegant, never intrusive, respectful. With a good (professional…) PUA you feel at ease (almost) from the beginning and (almost) until the end. So, spending some time playing with a PUA can lead you to get some satisfaction in terms of amusement, and you will learn to play too.
But, warning: we are talking only about PLAYING. And, like in every game, there is a START and there is a FINISH. The FINISH can arrive expected or unexpected, because if the PUA is fair, it’s agreed, and if he is less good at managing the whole thing, it all can end up as “YOU ABANDONED THE GAME”, all of a sudden. Why? Perhaps because the game with HB-the-cute-one-but-a-little-bit-annoying-always-requiring-attentions has become boring, or just not so much funny. Or obsolete. The new Operating System doesn’t support it anymore: EJECT, you should throw it away.
So, there are some guys that play with Game of Thrones and there are some guys that play the Seduction Game; girls, I don’t want to disappoint you, but also the emotional involvement is the same. Dealing with a PUA can be very exciting and stimulating, but it seems to talk to robots, because they tend to calculate every single reaction and word (sometimes, at time distance, they also repeat themselves… and this is a complete FAIL!). It seemes to be with a guy who repeats incessantly the script of a film (once, I didn’t understand well the sense of his entire speech, which was so artifact that couldn’t make any sense!, but I was so completely fool(ed) and with my eyes as hearts that I didn’t notice it. Stupid!Stupid!Stupid me!). Moreover, if in certain situations they can’t recall the proper technique or the right page of the manual, tumbleweeds appear, rolling in the desert.
No way: often, a PUA is prolix and overwhelms you with the supercool adventures of his life (50% fake minimum); on the contrary, he can be a little bit insecure guy and between you and him looong moments of silence could elapse, in which you look each other in the eyeballs without doing anything (or you can start making something… just as a distraction).
The goal of the game of the PUA? Create a rapport with you, making himself interesting at your eyes, make you understand that there is a little place in his life for you, and get you involved in the GAME. Now, it’s you that must decide to let him do it or to stop the game. The most important thing is to be aware that it is and it will remain a game. Don’t do like me that, as a perfect provincial girl, at the beginning I didn’t understand anything about this crap. Sometimes I wanted to make an applause to them: they were soo good, 30 cum laude, ola!, academic kiss. So, my dear HBs, be aware that, too often, if you enter a club you start playing the game of a PUA. Please keep with you all your strategies and your techniques, because probably the one which you will meet won’t be a stupid. So, try to do your game, without getting fooled by the more or less subtiles psychological moves that try to get you in the game.
Remember that, as a game, it takes place on a different level and not in real life: it would be soo difficult trying to make a PUA join the context of your real and familiar life, because this doesn’t match HIS game.
So, if you are willing to play, you are welcome in this 2.0 version of Laclos’s Dangerous Liaisons: make yourself beautiful and go to the disco to meet other gamers. Otherwise, if you don’t have the time to follow all this crap, if you are not willing to be defined HB in some Field Reports (yeah, because PUA make “field reports” of their “performances”), if you are looking for a real man, perhaps it’s better to dedicate yourself to other activities of real life: you will discover that often the exclusive nightclubs/discos are only parkings for pickups.